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《态度决定一切：披露一切人生财富的心理根源》 ［美］罗曼·Ｖ·皮尔 著 这是一本极具价值的人生指南读物

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他回到了少年时代的梦想里。他改变了职业。有个声音在悄悄地对他说：</span><span
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style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>立刻行动！</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>促使着他放弃现有的职业向新的目标跑去。</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　威廉·赫瓦德进入了报业，他获得了幸福，那是少年时代所期盼的那种幸福。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　人都应该具有在这个世界上发现真正自我的权利。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　例如，你多年来经营着杂货店，但真正想从事的却是音乐。试着改变方向又如何呢？或者你现在从事音乐方面的工作，但心里却想着经营杂货店，记住，你有实现梦想和发现自我的权利。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　圆满的人生就是内心深处没有留下任何缺憾的人生。在你心中产生的那些梦想，你必须加以珍惜，并对那样的梦想负起自己的责任。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>爱他人</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>--</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>演说家的秘密</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我的表弟菲立普·亨达森作为一名教育家，他是成功的。他在蒙特·赫尔约克担任多年副校长后，转到俄亥俄州的牛津担任西部女子大学校长。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他的父亲也就是我的伯父赫西尔·亨达森，不仅从事建筑业，也经营金融业，既是银行家，也是农场主。他非常富有，是俄亥俄高原具有领导地位的实业家。他很希望长子菲立普能继承他的事业，但菲立普和父亲却是不同类型的人。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他是学者、思想家兼教师，在这样的工作中找到了安宁与幸福，同时也获得了成功。他的弟弟赫瓦德继承父亲的事业也非常成功。他们兄弟俩一个在教育上，一个在商业上，分别在不同的领域发现了自我。</span><span
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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　一天晚上，菲立普来听我在辛西纳提大厅举行的演讲，演讲后我们到我下榻的饭店小聚。到现在我还忘不了我们当时的谈话。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　菲立普说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>诺曼，你一定很满足。在你演讲的前后，有那么多人为你热情鼓掌。大家都喜欢你，都认为你是了不起的人。可是你想不想知道从生下来就认识你的我，对你今晚的演讲有何感想呢？</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他是个率直而诚实的人，我知道必然会听到戳到痛处的批评。</span><span
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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>我认为今天的演讲你并没有把自己的一切表现出来。你似乎在说人的惰性，但其实只想尽快结束演讲。你真的喜欢演讲吗？我知道你的演讲是诚心诚意的，也相信你说的话，但不是出自衷心怜悯的谈话，热情就无法完全表达出来了。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他观察得很正确。我对自己怀有强烈信念的积极思维，很想传达给人们，每次演讲总是费尽苦心，似乎写文章还表达得比较好些。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我觉得演讲需要耗费心血，每次都感受到些许痛苦，菲立普看出了这一点。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　有这样一个真心爱我，为我好而严格要求我的亲戚真是幸福。我对这个亲如兄弟的表弟此时所说的话，始终不曾忘怀。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他告诉我要做一个优秀的演讲家必须去爱别人，必须治好不喜欢演讲的心病。此后我对演说采取了更积极的态度，我的人生也因而更幸福了。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　你是否爱现在所从事的工作是极为重要的，热爱它才能更热心地投入。越是如此，就越会得到很大的回报。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　不是有人说过：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>要爱人生，这样人生也会爱你。</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　作为你的朋友，我要给你这样的忠告。如果你现在对工作没有热情，应该马上全力以赴地投入其中。你能投入多少，潜伏在你体内的幸福感就会像波浪般地涌出多少。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　总之，最重要的就是发现自我、了解自我、相信自我，一心一意地投入。这样，人生才会如你所想的，变得光彩而满足。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>一生中最感幸福的时候</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　回想自己在何种情形下体验过最强烈的幸福感，那就是别人亲切地待我和我亲切地待人的时候。感受幸福的基本要素，就是接受亲切和待人亲切，这是我的结论。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　想起自己所做过的或接受过的小小的亲切，即使那是很久以前的事，也能带给我们无比的温馨，希望你也能这么认为。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我大概永远不会忘记接到母亲去世消息那天早晨的情形，我精神沮丧，想取消那天晚上在新泽西海边一个城市举行的演讲。可是母亲教导我们一定要完成自己的义务，所以我黯然地坐上了火车。我眺望着车窗外的景色，回想着儿时与母亲共同生活的情形，突然有人将手放在我的肩上，原来是老朋友麦伦·罗宾逊上校。</span><span
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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>去哪里呢？</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>朋友们在梅伊海岬举行烧烤聚会。</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>他回答道，在我身旁坐了下来。当时他在新泽西州长身边工作。</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　大概发觉我的样子有点不对劲，他关心地问我：</span><span
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style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>你怎么了？平日的精神哪儿去了？</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我说明了母亲去世的事儿。他把手放在我的膝盖上，默默地坐着。我到达目的地时他也一起下了车，我觉得很惊讶。</span><span
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