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《态度决定一切：披露一切人生财富的心理根源》 ［美］罗曼·Ｖ·皮尔 著 这是一本极具价值的人生指南读物

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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>积极思考</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>的人会选择语言。他们不会使用妨碍自己成长的消极语言</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>(</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>如果、做不到、不可能等</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>)</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>，他们从自己的脑海中把那种语言完全清除了出去。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　消极的语言证明你怀有消极的思想，不会对你产生好的影响，因此在积极思维中最重要的是不使用消极的语言。最好是能忘掉那些会引发失败的语言。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　某个集团购买了一块土地，打算建设大规模的公共设施。可是和常见的情形一样，他们之中有人怀疑计划能否实现。他们老是说</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果不能得到更多的支持</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>、</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果有更多资金</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>、</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果这样，如果那样</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>，除了</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>做不到</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>以外，再也没有比这短短的</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>二字更能使事业失败的了。在集团中也有人说：</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>那种事做不到，那是不可能的。这个不行，那个也做不到</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>这类浇冷水的话。还有人干脆断然地表示：</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>那种事是不可能的。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>净说一些</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>无论如何都不可能实现。这个不可能，那个也不可能</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>等使人气馁的消极语言。</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　可是有一个能做积极革新思考的人提出了非常好的提案。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他是投资人之一，慷慨出资，就算他要求分得一小部分土地，谁也不能拒绝。他说要把那块土地作为</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>墓地</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>，大家都惊讶异常。他用围墙围了一片地，在里面放了三个小墓碑。人们在举行葬礼的时间集合，参加他为墓碑举行的揭幕仪式。只见第一个墓碑刻着</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>，第二个墓碑刻着</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>做不到</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>，第三个墓碑刻着</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>不可能</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>。</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>把可能使我们事业失败的语言埋葬在这里，静静地埋在这里吧！</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>他说。他要表达的意义深深地刻入了每个人心里。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　这个集团后来能创造出令人瞩目的业绩，就是由于</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>积极思维</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>的人把消极的失败主义的语言赶走、埋葬的结果。</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

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<p class=MsoPlainText><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>下一次</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>为我们另辟蹊径</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　据著名精神科医生史麦利·布朗顿说，他的病人中喜欢说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果没有做那种事的话</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>......&quot; </span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>或</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>只要能那样做的话</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>......&quot;
</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>这类</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果怎样</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>的不切实际思考的人确实极多。</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:
"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　布朗顿博士采用诉诸想象的方法取得了很大的效果。博士指导每一名病人想象打开自己的头脑，从记忆中取出</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果怎样</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>的语言，然后放进</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>下一次</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family: