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《态度决定一切：披露一切人生财富的心理根源》 ［美］罗曼·Ｖ·皮尔 著 这是一本极具价值的人生指南读物

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他严格而理性地思考自己所处的状况，惮精竭虑地寻求更好的方法，分析自己的过错，然后加以消除。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　确实，他把聪明人能想到的事情都做了。可是失望的念头仍旧抓住他不放。他慢慢地、彻底被失望击败了。失望的念头渗进他控制思考的心灵，开始腐蚀他的坚强信仰。就在这个时候他突然采取了</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>矫正行动</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>，这不是他的术语，也不是我的，而是我常常借用友人吉姆·纳普的话。也就是不论想从何种失败状况解脱时，必须以气度、尝试信仰的指导去采取矫正的行动。关键在于</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>行动</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>。只要能采取正确的行动就能改正错误，这一点非常重要。问题不在于自己身上会发生什么，而是对发生在自己身上的该如何思考。如能不感情化而是客观的，不以消极的而是积极正确地进行思考，就能以刚毅的意志采取矫正行动。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　思考能以意志的力量左右在心里发生的事情。晦暗的想法累积后才会产生失意落魄的精神氛围，所以把这件事留藏在心里或是丢弃，完全由自己决定。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　这就是我的朋友得到的现实结论。对失望命令说：</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>从我的心里滚出去！</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　结果真的就会如此。当然也会遇到抵抗，只要以坚定的意志去面对，终能克服失望。他很得意地说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>我采取的完全是平凡而古老的行动。我对什么也不思考的人常有的不满或自我怜悯感到厌恶。我只想要行动、行动再行动！矫正的行动！</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>能不能告诉我采取何种方式的行动呢？矫正的行动到底是什么样的呢？</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>我向他请教。</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他首先采取的是身体行动。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他不再落魄地坐在那里，在心里消极地想：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>我为什么会落到这步田地？</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>而是到户外不停地走动或游泳，也再度开始打高尔夫球。这样的行动消除了掌管思维的大脑中枢的压力，使自己从思考转向行动。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　不久他的头脑变得清晰起来，心理状态也逐渐好转，血液循环畅通，心脏的功能也得到加强。各种创意开始在脑海里萌生。有一天他终于高兴地说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>我摆脱了失望情绪。</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他恢复了原有的活力。虽然不是在很短的时间内做到的，但比想象中更快恢复了原来的活力。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　只要采取具有强大矫正力的积极行动，情况就能得到改善。在身体行动之后，精神与思维过程也会得到显著的改善。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他面对每一个问题和困难，思考每一件事情能教会他什么。这时他也达到了我在别处引用的</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>W</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>·克勒蒙特·史东的名言</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>不论任何逆境也有相对的优点</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>所说的思考状态。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他知道祸福相依的道理后，一切事情看起来都不再那么糟糕。情况对他来说也开始好转。失望消极的态度所产生的无力感，被积极的态度和行动完全清除了。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>辛苦、困难、贫穷</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'> &quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>三位伟大的教师</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　前面说过，我觉得自己从未获得简单的工作是很幸运的。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我在四所教会担任过牧师，四所教会都负债累累，信徒也少，缺乏发展的基础，都处于最坏的状况中。可是最坏的状况也有优点，因为除了向上走别无他途。我要特别强调这个事实。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　如果获得条件良好的工作，就需要努力去维持，甚至要费尽心机考虑如何更上层楼。对我来说，从那样的工作中获得的满足感，远不如负责不顺利的或在走下坡的工作，使这份工作得到改善，变得欣欣向荣所获得的满足感来得大。所以我觉得自己很幸运。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　当然我也要承认，每一所教会都会带给我很大的失望。可是每次我都遇到了好人，从他们身上学到很多东西。我就是从这样的经验中总结出积极思考的法则。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　辛苦、困难、贫穷是三名杰出的教师。能用眼睛、耳朵和心扉接触这三名教师的人是幸福的。这三名教师必定会传授给他非常宝贵的东西。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我就是从艰苦的境遇中学到了四个宝贵的经验，并经常借以战胜失望。以下就是那四个经验。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>1.</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>遇事不要尽往坏处想。</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>2.</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>要爱别人。</span><span lang=EN-US
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>3.</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>要思考远大的事物。要祈祷、相信、实行、去爱，使自己也成为伟大的人物。在各方面都要追求卓越。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>4.</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>要相信。相信人的未来，相信自己本身。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　具有积极态度的人也是人，当然有时候也会意志消沉。正如前面所述，任何人都会受到心情好坏或感情变化的影响。可是有积极态度的人，能锻炼思考力和精神力，无论在何种情形下都不会失去自己的思考方法。他不是用感情，而是用理智约束自己，所以，虽然偶尔也有意志消沉的时候，但他能以智性、健全、客观的态度克服失望，处理失望。同时，对任何失败都不会完全失望而放弃。他会忘记失败再度去挑战。</span><span
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