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《态度决定一切：披露一切人生财富的心理根源》 ［美］罗曼·Ｖ·皮尔 著 这是一本极具价值的人生指南读物

mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　伟大的主。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　深爱我们的主。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　庇护我们的主。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　并且在心里说：</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　耶稣基督，如父亲般的</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　现在正在帮助我。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　如能照此行事，一定会觉得心里极其和平。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　剩下的五分钟要在心里描绘自己把渺小的失望交给浩瀚的寂静。而且要很清楚的想象出把一切交给寂静的情形。能成功地做到这样，你心里的暗影就能清除干净。心里的每一个角落都充满澄静和光明。能思考得更清楚，也能想出克服失望的好办法。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>倾诉你的苦恼</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　克服失望的第三种方法就是请一个人听你倾诉。当失望开始真正控制思维的时候，有积极态度的人会借此躲开以免受影响。请别人听你说话，对恢复健全的思想极有裨益。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　有一天，秘书走进我的办公室，告诉我有一个女人想见我。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>事先约好的吗？是什么样的人呢？</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>我问道，秘书回答说：</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>并不是事先约好的。我只知道她的名字。她是在路上行走时从招牌上看到先生的名字。她说她在进行</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>'</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>积极思考</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>'</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>的人，现在碰到一些苦恼的事，相信先生能给她力量，所以就来了。</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>是这样吗？请她进来，我和她谈谈。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

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mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　那个女人伶俐地说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>感谢你没有预约就见我。我简单地说明事情，请你给我建议，我就告辞。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　她说话的样子虽然很开朗，但隐瞒不了心中的的苦恼。她表示她为了成为具有积极人生态度的人而努力学习，可是</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>有很多问题和困难相继降临在我身上。虽然努力，但因为失望，积极的态度几乎要被淹没了。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　她又说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>如果能克服失望，我相信就能恢复原来的我，顺利地处理事情了。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>请把一切都说出来，我会帮助你的。继续说下去吧，让我知道使你苦恼的事，也许能替你想到好的解决办法。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　于是，她平静地说出了自己的苦恼。她非常有条理地叙述，不像思路不清的人老是重复同样的话。我想，很明显她是一个思考型的人，而且担任相当重要的工作。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　谈了近</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>30</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>分钟后，她看了一下手表说：</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>啊，打扰你很长时间了，实在抱歉，不过我得到了很多帮助。第一次见面您就对我这样亲切，我会永远记得的。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　说完就和进来时一样快步走出房间。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　我不知道自己为她做了什么。过了一会儿才发觉我是以静听她说话的方式给予了她帮助。她因为把自己心里的话全倾吐出来而感到轻松。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　当失望堆积得快要把你的心压垮，积极的态度即将瓦解时，就要找一位能以积极的态度聆听，有充分理解力的人，对他倾吐所有的黑暗。如果精神状态是健康的话，就不可能使包括失望在内的消极思想堆积太多。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　几年后，在一次演讲会上，她排队等待和我谈话，提及当时的情形时说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>那一天你把我从危机中解救了出来。我一直都很顺利。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　像这个例子一样，只请人听你说话，当然不一定能完全清除失望，但是把心里的话全部倾吐出来，确实是有效的。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'><o:p></o:p></span></p>

<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　能有效地清除失意情绪的三件事是：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>1.</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>祈祷</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'> 2.</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
"Times New Roman"'>说话</span><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>
3.</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>思考</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　也就是说可以向上天祈祷，把心里的事情全吐露出来。或者向听了能理解的人倾诉。最后是借自己的理性、判断力进行思考。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　这个秘诀就是向别人和自己坦白苦恼，不要感情化，要理性地从心里排除失望的念头。这样就必定能获得很好的效果。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>积极行动</span><span lang=EN-US
style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:
"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　有一位朋友接二连三地遭遇不幸，在这里姑且称他赫洛德吧。他的不幸大到足以夺去一个人的生命。可是他有坚强的信仰，以坚强的态度面对袭击他的苦难。他能冷静思考，不会因为不顺利就情绪化地责怪别人。而且认为有很多苦难的原因在于自己。</span><span
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<p class=MsoPlainText><span style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>　　他说：</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;</span><span
style='mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";
mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"'>人应该认识到在他的一生中总会遭遇几次痛苦。</span><span
lang=EN-US style='font-family:"Times New Roman"'>&quot;<o:p></o:p></span></p>